(摘)15 rules of good workplace manners

Good manners make all the difference in our daily encounters in the workplace and can make a big difference to your career advancement opportunities. But not everyone seems to know what it means to have them.

Here is a list of rules of good manners that one should abide by in the workplace – and anywhere else, really. You might think these are all obvious and, if so, good for you. There are, however, many people who need this refresher.

Say please and thank you. If you’re asking for something, or asking someone to do something, say “please.” If someone does something for you, or gives you something, say “thank you.”

Say hello and good bye. Greet people when you encounter them. In the morning say “Good morning.” Similarly, when you leave, say “Goodbye” or “Goodnight.”

Don’t ignore people in the elevator. This is hands down the weirdest thing I’ve encountered in the corporate world. You get in the elevator with people you know work in your office (but you don’t work together) and they avoid making eye contact as though you’re not there. OK, maybe all these people hate me, but I don’t think so. I’m nice. Also, even if you do dislike someone you should greet them in the elevator.

Offer to get coffee. If you’re running down to Tim Horton’s (or whatever) ask the people around you if they would like a coffee or tea. Make a point of saying “coffee or tea” so they don’t order whole meals (without giving you money for it). If you can’t afford a couple of bucks for the extra coffees, maybe you should ask for a raise. But really, someone else will get them next time, so just do it.

Say “Excuse me.” If you want someone to get out of your way, if you bump into someone, if you walk between two people having a conversation, if you need to interrupt a conversation, say “excuse me.”

Don’t interrupt. Ideally, you shouldn’t interrupt people when they’re speaking. Let them finish. If you must interrupt, say “excuse me,” or if you catch yourself after the fact, say “Sorry for interrupting you.”

Say “I’m sorry.” Also say “I’m sorry” if you intentionally or unintentionally hurt someone, or if you are rude or short, or if you make a mistake that costs someone else in any way, be it time, money, or something else. Sometimes we are rude or snippy when we are not at our best, and then when we realize we have made a mistake, we are too embarrassed to say anything and we just continue on as though nothing has happened. Don’t do that. Take a moment to own up and make verbal amends. If the offense was very bad, buy a small gift like coffee, chocolate, flowers, or a car.

Hold the door. When you go through a door, always look behind you and see if anyone else is coming. If someone is, hold the door open for them for Pete’s sake. The same goes for when you are getting into the elevator and you see someone coming. HOLD THE ELEVATOR. It’s what separates us from the animals.

Turn your phone down or off when in the office. It’s OK if you forget once in a while, but don’t be that one person who leaves their phone at top volume and gets calls allllll day long.

Don’t check your phone in meetings or when someone is speaking to you.Most of us are at least a little guilty of this. Some just steal a peek from time to time, while others stare at the screen the whole time someone is talking. It’s best to put the phone away and pay full attention to the person in front of you.

Don’t complain. Just don’t. It poisons the atmosphere, makes you sound like a jerk, and might hurt someone’s feelings (like if you’re complaining about the food at a meeting and it gets back to the person who was in charge of it).

Don’t give unsolicited advice. We live in a world where people are always telling others how to live. They tell you what you should and shouldn’t eat and wear, how to be happy, how to exercise, and how to manager your relationships – all without being asked. This is rude. Wait for the other person to ask your advice. If they don’t ask they don’t want it.

Don’t make personal remarks about someone’s appearance or clothing.Making personal remarks used to be considered rude. Nowadays it’s normal. But guess what? It’s still rude. It’s OK to say “I like your sweater.” It is not OK to comment on someone’s weight or appearance (unless you are good friends). Even “You look great today!” can be taken to mean “You look terrible every other day!” Be careful.

Clean up after yourself. So, this one time I went into a private interview room in the Workopolis office and someone had left what, from a distance, looked a pile of toenails on the floor. Guess what it turned out to be when I looked closer? It was a pile of toenails. You probably don’t leave your toenails around the office. But put your dishes in the dishwasher, and just pick up after yourself. It’s not anyone else’s job to clean up your mess.

Leave the personal grooming for home. Including clipping your toenails (weirdo) (whoever you are).

Yes, you should still display good manners even if no one is looking. It’s not just about whether you get caught. It’s about the effect you have on the world around you. Be mindful of it, and your coworkers will appreciate it.

Reference:
https://careers.workopolis.com/advice/15-rules-of-good-workplace-manners/

[摘]丑陋的中国人

这本书直指当代中国人的劣根性,每个中国人都应该读一下。摘抄不完整,丢了一部分,有空补上,部分文字有改动。

怎样克服我们的弱点

  1. 从说话开始。多说“谢谢”“对不起”“我能不能帮忙”
  2. 从清洁入手
  3. 学会反省,中国人往往不习惯于理智反省,而习惯于情绪的反省。

中国人太聪明,太聪明的极致一定是太自私。

仁似乎并不是爱,爱也似乎并不是仁,仁是当权派对小民的一种体恤和同情,乃施舍、赐予,表示慷慨大度。

人与人之间充满了恭敬与恐惧。有些是由敬生惧,像孩子对父亲;有些是由惧生敬,像娼妓对嫖客,像大臣对皇帝,像小民对官吏,像囚犯对狱吏。

起敬起畏的哲学使皇帝和臣民之间,官吏与小民之间的距离,一天一天拉大。

儒家那种口不言利,口不言钱,但心里却塞满了钱和利的畸形观念,必须纠正过来,社会民生才能蒸蒸日上。

儒家在原则上只提倡个体主义而不提倡群体注意。

孔子有一段话,是多祸消灾的最高标准,“危邦不入,乱邦不居,天下有道,则见,无道,则隐。邦有道,贫且贱,耻也。邦无道,富且贵焉,耻也。”

翻译:危险的地方,千万不要去。危险的社会,千万不要住。天下如果太平,就出来弄个官。天下如果不太平,就赶紧保持距离。天下大治,而你又穷又贱,丢人。天下大乱,而你又富又贵,同样丢人。

不认真,不敬业,悠悠忽忽,吊儿郎当的混,是大多数中国人的生活特征。

外国人遇事都是进一步想的,中国人遇事却退一步想。退一步,正式儒家那种对权势绝对驯服的明哲保身哲学。

在历史上,祖宗家法成了猪八戒的五齿钉耙,对任何改革当头一筑。

中华与印第安两大民族,虽然有许多不同之处,却也有许多相同之处,最相同的一点是,大家都有浓厚的崇古崇祖的情绪。这情绪使我们无法面对现实,拒绝现代化,对有些已经毛病百出的传统文化,仍搂在怀里,沾沾自喜。

一旦学生对“排队打手心”都不在乎,羞耻心便荡然无存,体罚也失去被认为“好”的一面意义。

如何使中国人以善意和诚恳对待陌生人,不仅是观光之道,也是做人之道。

一个没有高贵情操的人,永远不会了解别人会有高贵情操,也永不相信别人会有高贵情操。好事之徒、爱管闲事、别有用心,居心不良,只要对方有助人的念头,立刻给你带上这些帽子。

战败后的德国和日本,固然成了三等国家,可是他们的国民却一直是一等国民,拥有深厚的文化潜力。好像一个三头六臂的壮汉,咚的一声被打晕在地,等悠悠苏醒,爬起来拍拍屁股上的灰,仍是一条好汉。

虚骄之气使我们产生一种错觉,认为我们绝不会亡,理由是汉民族最富于同化力,证据是我们已亡过两次啦,一次亡给蒙古,一次亡给满州。这理论和证据可以增加我们的自信,但并不能保证以后不会再亡。

崇洋与媚外相距十万八千里,风马牛不相及,经过如此这般的硬生生的粘在一起,动不动就掏出来猛批。不过受伤的并不是被誉为崇洋媚外之辈,而是因怕媚外而不敢崇洋的人民。

中国人对作为一个国民,应该尽什么义务,完全没有观念。交通规则在中国,只是制定来要求别人遵守的,自己不但不遵守,一旦受到指责,立刻觉得没面子。

中国人讲“礼”,却只是虚礼–面子,“理”则受到压抑,不能伸张。

加上一块小红巾,就有了“面子”,下面是什么,肮不肮脏,就不需要计较了。

平时,常听到有人说:
“真是太不给面子了……”
“不给面子,就是存心跟我过不去嘛”
“赏脸的话,请……”
“这样做,真是够有面子……”

在一张张“面子”之下,我们中国人是不是忽略了“里子”?我们的生活中,高贵的金碧辉煌之下,掩盖着多少污渍,又有多少人注意到?

中国人可以用语言,把思想表达的非常精确。问题关键在,中国人想不想表达得清楚?如果他不想表达清楚,他就可以表达得很模糊。

中国复兴的慢的几个原因:

1、中国人只有家的观念,没有国的观念,中国人的美德、忠诚、爱心、保护力,都以家为目标,一切努力,到此为止。中国人心目中,国家是一部收税的机器,也是剥削人民的机器。在上位的人不管人民怎么过活,他本身是这部机器的受益人;在下位的人民,是这部机器的被剥削者,他没有办法抗拒剥削,变成一种恶性循环。
2、中国文化发展到清初,达到极点,自以为四海之内,唯我独尊,闭锁的心态使中国队外来的一切,毫无心理准备去接受,老大与僵固,封锁了中国人向外学习的能力。
3、中国人意识到必须向西方学习时,中国在内政上矛盾与冲突百出,派人到西方学习的主张上,也缺乏一套统一的政策。
4、中国人一切听天由命惯了,习惯说“算了,算了”,一句话,一笔勾销。
5、中国人不知道法治为何物。

“八十年代人”在接受鲁迅的思想时是毫无障碍的,他们认为鲁迅笔下的中国人是和他们毫无关系的,那是旧的中国人。但是柏杨的到来,在“八十年代人”当中却掀起了巨大的波澜。柏杨的指责,不仅直接指向了当代中国人,显然也指向了他们。如此犀利、直接、全面、一语道破中国传统文化劣根性,柏杨是第一人。

国际歌 L’Internationale – 歌词

国际歌

第1段:

起来,饥寒交迫的奴隶!
起来,全世界受苦的人!
满腔的热血已经沸腾,
要为真理而斗争!
旧世界打个落花流水,
奴隶们起来,起来!
不要说我们一无所有,
我们要做天下的主人!
副歌(×2):
这是最后的斗争,团结起来到明天,
英特纳雄耐尔就一定要实现!

第2段:

从来就没有什么救世主,
也不靠神仙皇帝!
要创造人类的幸福,
全靠我们自己!
我们要夺回劳动果实,
让思想冲破牢笼!
快把那炉火烧得通红,
趁热打铁才会成功!
(副歌)

第6段:

是谁创造了人类世界?
是我们劳动群众!
一切归劳动者所有,
哪能容得寄生虫?!
最可恨那些毒蛇猛兽,
吃尽了我们的血肉!
一旦将它们消灭干净,
鲜红的太阳照遍全球!

Warren Buffett Quotes

  • Price is what you pay. Value is what you get.
  • It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently.
  • It’s far better to buy a wonderful company at a fair price than a fair company at a wonderful price.
  • We simply attempt to be fearful when others are greedy and to be greedy only when others are fearful.
  •  Someone’s sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.
  • Risk comes from not knowing what you’re doing.
  • Rule No.1: Never lose money. Rule No.2: Never forget rule No.1.
  • It’s better to hang out with people better than you. Pick out associates whose behavior is better than yours and you’ll drift in that direction.
  • It’s only when the tide goes out that you discover who’s been swimming naked.
  • You only have to do a very few things right in your life so long as you don’t do too many things wrong.